7 habits we lost as kids and pay now to learn them again

How many times do we ask ourselves why we unlearned some habits; habits we now pay dearly for; either because they are missing or we are “forced” to re-learn them in order to move in the organizations? This blog does not analyze why but just states them as a motivation for you dear reader. Feel free to analyze and comment.

As a child What most of us now invest in / re-learn
Asking the Whys: Kids are curious and want to understand the cause of a problem or reasons for doing something, hence ask a “lot” of “whys” in the eyes of adults – until they are told “now it is enough”. 5 Why’s techniques: a popular simple analysis tool to get to the root cause of a problem rather than just solving the problem symptom in the quality management.

It can also be used to ask the value added in initiating a measure.

Trust: Kids trust parents, teachers and friends – until we disappoint them. Trust is the key word for effectiveness and for things to move fast. We now learn it more expensively. See also “The Speed of Trust” by Stephen M. R. Covey. Many activities are geared towards cultivating culture of trust re-gaining trust, be it towards employees or share holders. Stake holder management is now inevitable.
Paying close attention: It is rare to find a kid that does not draw and share this with the parents. When a kid draws and writes “for Mama” it tells us a lot and we feel understood and paid attention to. How many of us pay attention to our employees and seek to understand them? Stephen Covey’s 5th habit covers this in a pragmatic way. See also https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_7_Habits_of_Highly_Effective_People

 

Proactive: Kids are not passive, from birth, they know what they want, and they take action and do not wait to be told to move – until they get punished for trying to help. We now learn to work on our areas of our influence, to stop being victims and take responsibility of our actions. Few of us are proactive. Lack of proactive employees cost an organization a lot of time; in that we have to describe the “how to do something” rather than just to delegate “what”.
Creativity and full of fantasy We always hear such comments “be creative”. But can you do that by command? We failed to take this character with us. Can it be recovered?
Time to play and do something fulfilling. In the first 4 years at school, kids create time to play, for friends in such naturalness. In this stressful business world, time for ourselves, for hobbies, for recreation and sharpening the saw has to be learned again.
Telling their mind, sharing, open: kids share their story of the day and their feelings – till they partly learn that some are not accepted in the society. Studies have shown than suppressing feelings goes hand in hand with depression and failure to address conflicts. It now becomes expensive to learn to talk about our feelings or treat “depression“.

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